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Seven unspoken truth about how to get on with life after getting myselfout from abusive relationship.

You would think when someone finally escapes an abusive relationship, the worst is over. 

You think with the source of the hurt removed, healing can begin.  But after the external danger is gone, and the abuser is (at least physically) out of the picture, the survivor’s internal journey is only beginning. 
While certain wounds are healing, different ones, wounds hidden by the relationship itself, erupt in agony. This is one reason it takes the average survivor of intimate partner violence seven times to leave for good. 
And it’s one reason most people have NO IDEA why it takes so long to heal. 
If I may share the challenges as a survivor, that I was facing AFTER I've gotten out.  Here it is :
1. STOP LIVING IN DENIAL. After I was out and the past abuse is out in the open, I was forced to acknowledge it instead of pretending that it wasn’t happening.  To integrate the awful things that happened to me into who I am, without letting them define me.  It’s way beyond reinventing myself by changin…